Dealing with marital issues is just a fact of life for any two people who have chosen to spend their lives together. Regardless of how healthy your marriage is, there will inevitably come a time that is difficult to get through. The catalyst for the problem can appear in many different forms, but the fact remains that it is something you will have to deal with.
Fortunately for you, marriage counseling is one of my specialties. For over a quarter of a century I’ve been helping couples to work through their issues and come out stronger on the other side. With an expertise in family and relationship issues, there’s nothing I love more than providing couples with the counseling services they need to grow together.
Communication is Key
As you can probably imagine, when it comes to marriage counseling, I’ve pretty much seen it all. In that time I’ve grown to realize that everything comes back to communication. Being a good communicator–and taking the initiative to talk–can make such a massive difference in a relationship. With that in mind, there are a couple of tips I’d love to share with you on how you can grow to become an expert communicator. When two great communicators are in a relationship with one another, a marriage grows and blooms and there’s nothing better than that!
Know When to Chat
One of the biggest things you can do to improve your relationship is to know when the right time is to talk about an issue, and when the wrong time is. For example, you might want to wait to bring something up until later in the evening rather than doing it when your spouse has just gotten home from a long day at the office. Even if the day wasn’t particularly bad, he or she will likely need a minute to recharge. Timing is the key to great communication!
Use Your Ears
Similarly, it’s vitally important to know when to listen. Every good conversation is about hearing what the other person is actually saying. Being a good listener means that you are actually able to understand what your significant other is upset about–and it’s the right way to start making changes.
In the heat of an argument, it can be hard to stay calm, but one of the best things you can do when you’re in a discussion with your spouse is to ask questions. Get specifics on what is making your loved one feel the way he or she feels. Asking questions often helps you to get to the heart of the issue and understand your partner that much better. It’s a win/win situation.